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| WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSERS |
 ...DID YOU KNOW?... Psychologists, therapists, social workers, physicians, educators and other professionals have researched this area and have compiled "profiles" of abusers... ABUSERS are people who mistreat others in emotional, mental and physical ways.... who constantly perpetrate assaults & attacks upon their partner (or children) in the form of ---- * actions to humiliate others * ridicule & excess profanity * financial neglect, * violence, * yelling threats * degradation, * con games & scams, * threats of violence * extreme profanity & insults, * harsh criticisms, * "put downs"...and worse. EMOTIONAL abuse is just as harmful (or more so) as any physical abuse. Too often, emotional abuse preceeds physical beatings, violence or murder. Both men and women can be ABUSERS.... ABUSERS come from all socio-economic levels, all educational levels, all racial, age, and all ethnic & religious groups. Sometimes the ABUSER is a father who abuses his children. Sometimes it is a husband who abuses his wife. Sometimes it is a woman that abuses her boyfriend... Sometimes it is a mother who victimizes her children... ABUSERS are typically those who have emotional and mental problems themselves, are very self-centered, but wish to blame others...to degrade others, to pretend that their own problems are the fault of others. If you feel depressed in your relationship, but your man is not beating you or hitting you... you may be the victim of EMOTIONAL ABUSE. ** Always BEWARE... if anyone displays ANY of the above behaviours, particular if he does any of these actions in repeated patterns. ** IF YOU ARE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO SHOWS MOST OF THESE SIGNS....IT IS TIME TO GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. TYPICALLY...HE WILL NOT GET ANY BETTER OR CHANGE---HE OR SHE NEEDS SERIOUS THERAPY.  TYPICALLY MEN ARE THE CULPRITS--- ** Husbands and boyfriends commit 13,000 acts of violence against women in the workplace every year. **The NUMBER ONE cause of death for pregnant women is abusive men. ** Millions of women are victims of EMOTIONAL & MENTAL ABUSE from their husbands, boyfriends and fathers ** Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives. ** One in five female high school students reports being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner. ** Millions of women are beaten and killed everyday by a man. ** In 1996, among all female murder victims in the U.S., 30% were slain by their husbands or boyfriends. **In 92% of all domestic violence incidents, crimes are committed by men against women. **Forty percent (40%) of teenage girls age 14 to 17 report knowing some girl their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.  ...LEARN MORE AT THESE WEBSITES---Dealing with Difficult "Control Freaks" http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/control.html Black Women's Rape Action Project & Women Against Rape. http://www.womenagainstrape.net ************************* Amnesty Int'L: One in three women abused Friday 05 March 2004, 19:55 Makka Time, 16:55 GMT Amnesty has launched a drive to end violence against women From battlefields to backstreets and bedrooms, women across the world are being subjected to terrifying levels of abuse, according to human rights pressure group Amnesty International. Amnesty reported on Friday that up to one billion women-one in three --had been beaten, forced to have sex or otherwise abused, often by a friend or family member. LEARN MORE AND READ ARTICLE-- http://www.freewebs.com/health-wealth/charity.htm ****************************** *MORE ABOUT EMOTIONAL ABUSE: http://www.lilaclane.com/relationships/emotional-abuse/ STATISTICS ON ABUSE: http://www.ndvh.org/dvInfo.html#stats  ...BEWARE, SISTERS ...and BECOME AWARE!WARNING SIGNS: MOST OF THE TIME, THIS TYPE OF ABUSE INVOLVES A MAN MISTREATING A WOMAN... but sometimes you will see women who abuse men...  ...**The following list represents whatpsychologists & counselors have discovered as being "warning signs of an ABUSER. .....HE or SHE IS A PERSON WHO... * Criticises everything you do, what you wear and what your hair looks like--without cause. * Reacts with violence when he loses his temper-- may kick partner's dog, destroy property, etc. * Drinks heavily or uses drugs * Wants to control your life, mind, finances and who your friends should be. * Lack sympathy for partner’s physical and emotional hurts and pain. And he may often cause the emotional pain via his cruel comments and abusive accusations. * Makes decisions regardless of your wishes.... such as taking other's property, breaking in one's private records, stealing partner's money, etc. * Frequently demanding and aggressive in his behavior. He may often yell & scream at you, and verbally chatise you. * Puts the blame on you when he mistreats you. Tend to minimize and deny the abuse. Abusers can "explain" their foul behavior in dramatic ways, find ways to blame you for "making them do it." Or they often claim they did it "for your own good" or..."I was trying to motivate you..." * Keeps you from seeing your friends and family * Makes numerous promises that are not kept. * KEEPS YOU IN A STATE OF LIMIT FINANCES--- Deprives you of money.... limits your finances... ridicules your career, fails to support you in your job or business...takes total control over your paycheck and use of money, and---otherwise similarly fails to work jointly on major financial decisions....or to help you financially. * Makes you perform sexual favours against your will * Keeps track of where you are all the time. * Is possessive and jealous --but flirts and does whatever they want... has affairs himself. * Threatens you or your family and friends * Frightens you or makes you feel unsafe * Humiliates you in front of friends or family * Constantly puts you down. * Deprives the woman of money for her own needs and/or for the children. * Can be very pleasant outside of the home and very unkind at home. Shows a different side in public than when you are alone. In fact, he may be a very prominent person in the public's eye. But at home with you-- he is mentally, emotionally and (perhaps physically) a monster toward you. * MISTREATS WITHOUT CAUSE...Ignores, suppresses, dictates, or neglects partner's basic needs as a human being, such as--- ...* ridiculing partner's friends ...* disrespects partner's property ...* denying partner the right to think and make decisions, ... ...* attempting to control & dictate what partner does on her own job, in partner's career, or with money-- and ... ...* even dictating partner's opinions. * Has affairs with other women, flirts & plays the field...but gets extremely upset whenever another man merely compliments you. * Abuses your trust by lying to you * Has a history of abuse Why do women stay with these types of men? Read more below...about "co-dependency"... STAY AWAY FROM MEN WHO DISPLAY A LOT OF THESE CHARACTERISTICS.  ...WANT SOME POSITIVE ALTERNATIVES...?WANT TO BROADEN YOUR HORIZONS...? WANT HONEST TALK...? HERE IS A WEBSITE THAT EMPHASIZES "self improvement" and liberation for women: http://www.aspiringwomen.tv IF YOU ARE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO SHOWS MOST OF THESE SIGNS....IT IS TIME TO GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP. TYPICALLY...HE WILL NOT GET ANY BETTER OR CHANGE---HE OR SHE NEEDS SERIOUS THERAPY. Seek help if you need it---and leave that awful partner or situation. LEARN MORE BY READING BOOKS--- FIND OPPORTUNITIES TO BECOME MORE AWARE AND FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT AT THIS WEBSITE: http://mypages.blackvoices.com/greatspirit YOU DESERVE THE BEST!! |
| CO-DEPENDENCY... |
| CHARACTERISTICS OF WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH... * Accustomed to lack of love in personal relationships, you are willing to wait, hope, and try harder to please. * You are willing to take far more than 50 percent of the responsibility, guilt and blame in any relationship. You will try the feats of "super woman" to make things go right, even when he has caused it all to go wrong. * You ignore the reality of his abuse and hope he will change. Although he never shows any indication of a desire to change, you continue to hope and wish, while putting up with abuse. You may even try to "analyze" why he acts this way, so that you can "help him" ---while refuse to acknowledge that he has deep emotional & mental problems. * You may "feel sorry for him" for some reason. Although you had nothing to do with creating his problems, you try to solve all of them at your own expense or to your own detriment. * Your self-esteem is critically low, and deep inside you do not believe you deserve to be happy. Rather, you believe you must earn the right to enjoy life. * In a relationship, you are much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation. *You are addicted to men and to emotional pain. By being drawn to people with problems that need fixing, or by being enmeshed in situations that are chaotic, uncertain, and emotionally painful, you avoid focusing on your responsibility to yourself. * You may have a tendency toward episodes of depression, which you try to forestall through the excitement provided by an unstable relationship. * You are not attracted to men who are kind, stable, reliable and interested in you. You find such "nice" men boring. ========================================== FROM THE BOOK: "Women Who Love Too Much" by R. Norwood ========================================== BEGIN CHANGING YOUR SITUATION BY GETTING HEALTHY (body, mind, & spirit) YOURSELF... Participate in the "Workshop on the Web" www.maxpages.com/seminar FIND OUT MORE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND CULTURAL DIVERSITY IN BOOKS BY M. MILLER You are invited to visit this website: www.authorsden.com/melviafmiller HAVE A MILLION DOLLAR DAY... |
| WHAT'S REALLY IMPORTANT IN LIFE...? |
| MOST IMPORTANT THINGS List--- The most destructive habit..............................Worry The greatest Joy.......................................Giving The greatest loss..........................Loss of self-respect The most satisfying work............................Helping others The ugliest personality trait.......................Selfishness The most endangered species........................Dedicated leaders Our greatest natural resource......................Our youth The key to our future happiness.................. Our children The greatest "shot in the arm"....................Encouragement The greatest problem to overcome.......................Fear The most effective sleeping pill.................Peace of mind The most crippling failure disease..................Excuses The most powerful force in life.....................Love The most dangerous pariah..........................A gossiper The world's most incredible computer................The brain The worst thing to be without...................... Hope The deadliest weapon..............................The tongue The two most power-filled words......................"I Can" The greatest asset....................................Faith The most worthless emotion........................Self-pity The most beautiful attire...........................SMILE! The most prized possession.........................Integrity The most powerful channel of communication...........Prayer The most contagious spirit.........................Enthusiasm The most important thing in life.......................GOD AN IMPORTANT INGREDIENT TO PEACE IN THE WORLD.... .......Understanding Cultural differences LEARN MORE AT THE 'TRUE HISTORY MUSEUM' http://mypages.blackvoices.com/museum WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS NOW IS--- more love. |
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