((Build Win-win Relationships))
The secret to building win-win relationships is honesty. You
first have to be honest with yourself as to who you are and
what you want, then act accordingly. You must also be honest
with others that you have relationships with as to who you
are and what you want from the relationship. Surprise,
surprise, the relationships that do not give you what you
want will break apart, and new ones that form will provide
what it is that you are looking for.
Example: If you want a relationship where your partner is a
non-drinker, then do not go to bars to meet people. If you
are doing this you are not being honest with yourself or the
people you meet.
((Less Negative Stress))
The first thing you must acknowledge is that stress is just
stress. The only way to have no stress is to die, and we do
not want to deal with that option here. Therefore, the
"positive" or "negative" designation must come from our own
interpretation of the event that caused this stress. When an
event that causes you stress takes place, ask yourself "Why
is this upsetting me?", then decide what you are going to do
differently so that it will not upset you next time. Use the
event as though it was something that you needed in your
life so that you can grow to meet a challenge that you will
face at a future date.
|
|
