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Parenting

Parenting, if per chance we choose to venture there, can be
one of the most difficult tasks life has to offer and also one of the
most rewarding. If we choose to attempt this plight we must first
realize the basic ground rules. There are none. There are no set
guideline or formats that will guarantee our success as a
parent. What makes it even more challenging is that every child
is not only different and unique in its own way but must be
handled on a individual bases . The only way that this may be
achieved is by using our own experiences as a child and last but
not least our imaginations . One thing we must never forget is that
no matter how much we've read or have experienced in life,
when it comes to parenting we are all amateurs and must start at
the beginning for each child.

There are several different ideas and techniques used in
raising a child. Some feel we should be strong and firm in
discipline, while others feel that being relaxed , letting the child
learn from self experiences is the easiest road for both child and
parents. Then there are those that feel the middle of the road
approach is a much more efficient and effective. Although all
these methods are acceptable and will work to some degree, none
are full proof. They each have their flaws or set backs leaving
room for improvement. There is no preferred or recommended way
that makes one better than the other, for in fact it is whatever
method works best for the child and for us at the time is usually the
path we choose.

Some feel parenting officially starts on the day your child is
born, others feel it starts at the time they are conceived. Yet
others feel that at the time we start preparing for the event is the
time we begin our actual training. If we were to take the time to
examine ourselves and the manor at which parenting is taught
we would find that none of the above are the true beginning. We
must explore our minds and probe deep into our inner most
selves to find the true answer. When we achieve this, parenting
will take on a whole new meaning.

What makes a good parent is more in depth then we can
ever imagine. It truly begins when we reach the age where we
can distinguish between right and wrong. Although this age
varies for everyone it is the true beginning. Our parents set the
standards for us beginning at our own birth and the process is
enhanced each day and becomes our training grounds, not only
for life but for parenting.

Values, morals, beliefs and many other qualities are
instilled and refined as we mature in life. As Youths we accept
our parents teachings and add our own experiences to enhance
our values. We constantly test the waters as we mature, perhaps
finding that some of our parents ways are not suitable for our own
life, writing them off as a learning experience. We modify our own
behavior to fit our own needs and at the same time determining the
things we will instill on our own children in the youth.

After reaching this stage of maturity, we take all the like,
dislike and experiences that have accumulated during our
childhood into consideration. Then comes the difficult task of
deciding which ones will be passed on to our own children.
Hopefully at that point in life we realize that parenting is a life
long training process which started from the beginning of time to
the present day. We discover that what we were taught we have
become and what we have become is what we will instill on our
own children. Although we feel imperfect in our life it is still a
good place to start.

When we finally realize the secret to parenting is nothing
more than raising your own as you wanted to be raised
when you were growing up as a child. It is simple and can be
traced back to a verse in the bible that goes like this. “Do unto
others as you would have them do unto you.’’ If we keep this
thought in mind, parenting will not only be more revealing and
easier to understand but much more enjoyable.

Sleep well my friend wherever you may be---Ymiron

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