Divorce
The dream and goals we have in life are not always fulfilled the way we planned. We often run into obstacles which seem to disrupt our goals and destroy our dreams. Occasionally the things in life that once made us happy and complete are now turned to anger and mistrust. The feelings of love are transposed into hatred and perhaps even revenge.
What usually causes our demise only to often is our foolish pride, or our lack of the ability to say I am sorry. Pride is a terrible thing to allow to control or lives because we tend loose our sense of understanding ,shutting out any chances of changing our mind. What could have been resolved by a simple , I am sorry , is now turned into bitterness and discontent. Instead of turning to each other to resolve our differences we turn to lawyers and the judicial system.
All the dreams we built and the equity we acquired are lost to lawyers and court cost. We are strip of our dignity, our pride and last but not least our equity. Our families becomes divided and filled with hate or anger. Our life has been altered and will never be the same no matter how much we try. We awaken one day only to find that an important part of our life is missing as though it never happened. The void causes the pain to becomes so great that we loose or block out the memories of the times that were once held dear to us. The struggle to survive and regroup becomes an overwhelming force in our life. We can hardly focus on anything else except the hate and hurt this terrible situation has caused. It seems to takes us a long period of time to finally come to peace with ourselves.
After we have been divorced a few years our mind think back and wonder who was at fault only to discover that we can’t remember. We examine the past thoroughly and at that point we realize that if we can’t remember reason for the breakup, it couldn’t have been that important in the first place. It is ashamed we could not have realized this before filling for divorce, or just learned to have said I am sorry. In any event it is a decision we have made and must live with no matter how painful it may seem.
Although the Lord does not condone it, He does allows us the right to divorce. His only request is that we attempt every method possible to avoid it, by giving us guidelines to follow. The rest is up to us.
Sleep well my friend wherever you may be--------------YmiRon
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YMIRon@aol.com, January 2007
