Alone by Choice
One of the most difficult things for us to do in life is, to make the choice to be alone. We may make this decision for many reasons. Perhaps it is because we have a goal in life we must first fulfill. Another possibility may be because we were hurt in a relationship once and are afraid to trust again, or perhaps we have low self-esteem and don’t feel worthy of another. Maybe the feeling is they aren’t good enough for us. No Matter what the reason may be we must realize that it isn’t fair to ourselves to be alone and that was not the way God intended it to be.
One thing we will always notice about ourselves when we make that choice even though we don’t like to admit it. The signs to look for are irritability, restlessness, shallow felling, unable to be pleased, introverted and even unhappy with the life we have chosen. We often find ourselves irritable when around happy couples, hiding our emotions and covering them up the best way we can. The truth of the matter is we are filled with envy and some times even hatred. Perhaps to the point of making rude verbal gestures abusing the situation we are in, just to justify our deepest feelings. In our heart we long for that closeness and the feeling of fulfillment that others are experiencing, knowing, that togetherness is a beautiful feeling of completeness. We have to let go of our selfish ways, opening our minds so that our hearts can experience the happiness we see in others.
If we decide to shut out these feeling, we may convince our self that we actually enjoy being alone. Sometimes we even fool ourselves into believing that being alone is good for us but in a long run we know better.
Once we are totally honest with our self we will then become convinced that we can to find our soul mate. Deep in my heart I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone, if we take the time to look. We must not be superficial or judge a person by what we see on the outside. In order to find their best qualities we must allow them to be them selves. Making mistakes is part life’s learning process. True happiness will only come in a relationship when we open our hearts and mind to each other, which allows us to reach the point of never having to say we’re sorry.
After reaching that point we will realize we never really wanted to be alone at all. Often finding out that the thing we really wanted most is to share our greatest asset with that special someone. The great asset we have to give is our self and is to be shared physically, mentally, spiritually and most of all unconditionally.
Sometimes despite of all the positive reasons we find for being with someone we choose our own path. The choice we make no matter how selfish it may seem to others, is ours to make and no one can make it for us. It does not mean we are sad, unhappy or even discontent. It just means we have our reasons and have chosen to be alone by choice.
Sleep well my friend wherever you may be.
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YMIRon@aol.com, September 28, 2007
