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| Methods to have conscious dreams: Fear Fear can lead to lucidity. My daughter Lisa for instance had a dream in which she was chased by a "creepy guy". She ran through abandoned streets and heard him coming nearer. I had told her: "You know it is weird, but if you are afraid in your dream you can know that you are dreaming. When you know this you can change the dream". While the "creepy guy" came nearer and nearer and almost grabbed Lisa, she suddenly realized that it was a dream. This is a very surprising experience, especially the first time. Lisa turned around, looked the villain straight in his eyes and shouted: "Go away!". Our dog "Max" sat beside her and growled at the creep, after which the man ran away scared. Lisa was justly very proud when she awoke. It is important as a parent to make some time to praise your child. This increases the chance that other nightmares will also end well. Peculiarities Dreams are often odd. Also when you realize this you can know that you are dreaming. Everything that is by day impossible, can be the reason that you know that you are dreaming. Extreme things, like monsters and flying furniture. But it can also be more subtle things. I dreamt once that I was back in my parental home. I looked a bit in closets, visited the kitchen and the attic. I believed that it was all real (which we always do in our dreams). Suddenly I realized that in reality my parental home was demolished. This could not be that place, so I had to be dreaming. If you know this, you can really undertake all sorts of things. You can for instance change your surroundings in an old seagoing ship, a hot-air balloon, or anything you could think of. It is important to stay calm, because extreme emotions can cause you to wake up. The first time I had a lucid dream, I became so enthusiastic that I immediately awoke. The next time becoming aware that you are dreaming It might be that there was something frightening of strange in your dream, but you did not realized that you were dreaming. Then say to yourself (when you are awake) that you will know that you are dreaming the next time you have that frightening or strange experience. This is usually very effective. "False" awakening One of the extraordinary things that lucid dreamers (and common dreamers as well) may experience is 'false awakening'. One imagines waking up in bed, goes about one's daily duties, but afterwards you still happens to be dreaming. Lucid dreamers experience this phenomenon rather more often than others. LaBerge found a way in which you can realize at such a moment as well that it is a dream. If you have had such a experience, expect the next time you wake up after a dream that this is still a dream as well. So, if you wake up after a dream, you immediately check whether you are still dreaming. The most common way to do this is by trying to fly a short distance. If you succeed, you can be certain that you are dreaming. When will I have my first lucid dream? A very important condition (and perhaps the most important one) for experiencing a lucid dream is 'motivation'. If you merely think: 'I wouldn't mind dreaming like this,' you are not really motivated. But if you decide: 'I want to have a conscious dream, and I shall have it!', you have a much bigger chance that it will happen soon. How soon and how often one will experience this, differs from person to person. But the same rule applies to learning to have lucid dreams as learning other skills: there is no progress without practice. With a reasonable amount of motivation and practice most people will succeed in having lucid dreams several times a month. It is also important to remember and write down your dreams. Learn from the Senoi, the dream-people of Malaysia Dreams were very important in the life of the Senoi. This people lived in the mountains of Malaysia. They had a society free of crime and mental illness. In the morning the entire family, discussed their dreams. This might sound a bit boring, but how boring was your last nightmare? When they became teen-agers the Senoi did not have nightmares anymore. All their dreams were positive. They achieved this by means of a very original system, that I will explain in a minute. The Senoi lived in long community houses, constructed of bamboo, rattan and thatch, and held away from the ground on poles. They grew among other things rice, bananas, bread-fruit trees and pumpkins. They were mainly vegetarians, but fish and certain forest animals were also on the menu. That the Senoi did not suffer of neurosis or psychoses sounds unbelievable. But it is well researched and the results confirm this. The way they handle their dreams seems to be the key to this. The rules that the Senoi had when it came to their dreams were the following: If there is danger in your dream, you should confront and conquer it. When for instance a child had dreamed that a tiger attacked him, his parents would tell him that such dream-tigers could not hurt him. They encouraged him to attack the tiger himself the next time. And if he wasn't strong enough, he could call a 'dream-friend' to help him. If the danger was fire he should put it out with water. When the child fell from a mountain, he would be able to land softly or fly etc. See for this also Redreaming. Besides this the child was encouraged to have as much pleasure as possible in the dream. "Try to fly and discover all sorts of things, and always let your dream end positive". Even if the dreamer died, he could be reborn in a better and stronger body. My daughter thinks this part is especially "cool". The most positive ending was if the dreamer got or found a dream-gift . When they were awake the Senoi spent a lot of time creating dream-gifts or something that they had seen in their dreams. This could become a painting, woodcarving, or for instance a piece of music. In western society such dream-gifts are also mentioned. The sewing machine was invented with the aid of a dream by Elias Howe. Robert Louis Stevenson -a writer- even had a complete dream-tribe, which provided him with ideas. His best-known works are 'Treasure Island' and 'Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde'. Several compositions by Wagner, Mozart and Beethoven were dream-inspired. As well as a couple of songs by Sting (The Dream of the Blue Turtles). And Albert Einstein owes his theory of relativity partly to a dream. Finally it was important to make as many friends as possible in the dream. This is logical when you realize that every dream character is a part of your own mind ( you are the one who has dreamed them). Hostile characters were also 'conquered' by becoming their friend. If the character would still be aggressive, the dreamer should attack him. He could call in the help of a dream-friend that would help him defeat the aggressor. This could be some powerful figure in the Senoi community. In our society this can be some strong superhero, the ghostbusters, movie actor, parent or a pet). After defeating the hostile character or making him a friend he must give a gift to the dreamer as a token of good will. You can also use this system by day to change dreams that you have already had: this is called Redreaming. It is meant for children and adults. If your child has had a nightmare, it is a good idea to read books or show movies with friendly nightmare figures". Books with friendly monsters, alligators, ghosts etc. Because I could not find such lists on the Internet I have created a books and movies category. The rather idyllic society of the Senoi was regrettably almost entirely destroyed during World War II, after they shared their dream system with Westerners. Nowadays there are still Senoi, but many will not talk about their dreams anymore. Some even deny that they have had such a dream system. The last time they shared their method they were almost destroyed, so I can't blame them. How to remember your dreams better and interpret them Remembering your dreams It is important to write down your dream first thing in the morning. Most people do not have time to think about it then, so this way you can do it later. In order to write down your dreams, you will obviously first have to remember them. You dream every night (even though you do not always remember). As a matter of fact, many people forget their dreams because they immediately start thinking about a lot of other things in the morning. Consequently any memory they have of their dreams disappears. What can you do about this? Repeat a few times to yourself before you go to sleep: 'Tomorrow I shall remember my dream!' Then you fall asleep. When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you do is think about your dream. What was it about? How did it feel? Stay quietly in your bed, and wait a moment. You will see that in this way it is easier to remember your dream. As soon as you have recalled it, you should quickly write it down. If you wait too long, even a mere 5 or 10 minutes, you will often have forgotten. You will probably remember dreams better on days that you do not have to go to your work. How to interpret your dreams: two magical questions After having written down you dream, there are always two questions to be asked for each dream-image (people, animals, things or events): 1) Who/what/where/when does the dream-image remind me of? 2) If somebody had never seen this image before, how would I explain it to him? Divide a piece of paper into two halves. On the left side you write down all the dream-images of the dream you have written down. Behind each image you put the answer to the two questions. On the right you write what you think is the meaning of the dream. See the following example. Associations e.g.: house... answer to question 1 answer to question 2 bird... answer to question 1 answer to question 2 Conclusions You will see that your associations are very important. When you think about the house the answer to question 1 may be that it reminds you of the house of your uncle. The answer to question 2 might be: 'A house is something you live in, where you are safe from bad weather. A place where you spend time with your family. The bird may remind you of a certain park, where you see such birds by day. And you may think that a bird is something that is free and is able to look at things from a distance. Now you probably understand that you can discover the symbolic meaning of the dream-images with the two questions. After answering all the questions you can try to understand what the entire dream means. You will notice that only one dream does not tell to much. It is just a piece of the puzzle. If you look at a couple of dreams you often see a theme. Some images will also appear more often than others. These are usually very significant. I personally think this is the best technique to understand the meaning of dreams, but there are some other creative methods. If you are interested you might want to read one of these books. I have also written an online dictionary of dreams , that can be useful. Although your own associations are often more important. |
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