 Tips for Success
 for Brian Tracy's Daily Quote
to hear Accentuate The Positive
for a Charisma Quiz
You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world's happiness now. How?
By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged.
Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today,
but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime."
- Dale Carnegie
 Problem Solving: The Four Question Approach
Once you've discovered the best possible solution, take action!
The key is not to be overwhelmed by problems.
 What is the problem?
What are the causes of the problem?
What are the possible solutions?
What is the best possible solution?
Habits for Improving Performance
"Finish each day and be done with it.
You have done what you could;
some blunders and absurdities
no doubt crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day;
you shall begin it well and serenely."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
"You can conquer almost any fear if you
will only make up your mind to do so."
- Dale Carnegie
Clear your desk of all materials except those relating to the immediate task.
Do things in the order of their importance.
When you face a problem, solve it right away
if you have the information needed to make a decision.
Learn to organize, delegate, and supervise.
How to Conquer Worry and Manage Stress
If you want to develop courage, do the thing you fear and keep on doing it until you have a record of
successful experiences behind you. That is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.
"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so.
For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind."
- Dale Carnegie
Try to compartmentalize worry so that it
doesn't carry over from one day to the next.
Ask yourself what is the worst that could happen.
Prepare to accept the worst.
Try to improve on the worst.
Remind yourself of the toll worry can take on your health.
Remember that 90% of what you worry about never happens.
Strengthening Relationships: A Time-Tested Strategy
It's been reported that one of the greatest personal strengths of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was her
ability to make the person she was speaking with feel like the most important person in the world.
Don't criticize, condemn, or complain.
Give honest, sincere appreciation.
Become genuinely interested in other people.
Smile.
Remember that a person's name is to that person
the sweetest and the most important sound in any language.
Be a good listener.
Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
Make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely.
© Dale Carnegie
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Live Simply
Dale Carnegie said "One of the most tragic things that I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our window today."
Too many of us are putting off living, sacrificing the sacred and special moments of every day while we get caught up in the whirlpool of our hectic schedules. Too many people are getting caught up in the chaos of crisis, in the endless rushing and in chasing the illusion of success at the great cost of personal fulfilment and satisfaction. We are giving our energy to those things which might seem like they are worthwhile in the urgency of the moment but that matter very little in the long run.
It has been said that success is a journey not a destination. The wise sages and pundits who spent their lives in deep contemplation, searching for life's ultimate purpose have said time and time again that every minute of life is a blessing. In the East, the philosophers told us to "live in the now, enjoy the process and slow down so that you can savour the simple pleasures which will open your heart." And yet in our frantic race to become a high-tech, information rich world, all too often we miss the little pleasures that every day sends us, those little gifts that could renew our spirits and anchor us to the wonders of all creation.
Good things happen to us every day. The sunrise or the sunset or a moonlit sky or your child's laugh are all meaningful events which have the power to improve the quality of your life if you start to pay attention to them. As I suggested in my book MegaLiving!, the happiest people of this world and the unhappiest people of this world often experience similar things in their day: challenges at the office, traffic filled highways, the seemingly endless stream of negative news and constant levels of change. What separates the happy from the unhappy is that the joyful ones give their mental focus to different things, to those more meaningful and inspiring events that nurture a more enlightened reality. They have developed the inner wisdom to know that life management begins with mind management and you truly can't afford the luxury of even one negative thought.
The moment you start feeling gratified by the simple act of doing something for someone else or following your mission because your heart tells you that this is the right thing to do, you take a giant step along the path of enlightenment. Because true harmony is to be found within you, not outside of you. Happiness is an inside job. If you base your happiness on external objects, the moment one of those objects is taken away from you, you lose your happiness. Real happiness comes through knowing who you are and connecting to your highest self. It comes through knowing that you are not in this world - the world is in you and you can create anything you need within yourself.
Everyone of us is part of the same universal source. We are all connected in some way or another. The sages have known this truth for thousands of years. When you do something for someone else, you do something for yourself. Lifelong success comes from enjoying the process of living and doing things, whether it is growing a rose garden or building a business, for the sheer pleasure of doing these things. The inner joy that comes from doing something that is truly worthy can never be taken away from you, unlike the external rewards like a big house and a fast car or a corporate title, which are always fleeting.
It's like the story of the young boy who sought enlightenment from a wise monk who practised pottery making. After many years of deep contemplation and introspection, the boy was close to enlightenment. One sunny afternoon, the boy was holding one of the monk's prized pots, and admiring its beauty when it slipped from his hand and broke into many tiny pieces. The boy felt a tremendous sense of loss at the broken pot and apologized profusely to his teacher. But the monk remained calm. With a gentle smile the teacher said "You need not be sad - it is still within me."
The wise monk realized that the true pleasure of the pot came through the process of creating and shaping it, not in owning the end product or in the external rewards that it brought him. The joy was not in the creation, it was in the journey. The joy was not in the destination but in the path. And this is precisely the same in your life. To live with deep richness and contentment, start taking the time to see the simple pleasures that are around you. Start enjoying the path and stop focusing so much on the destination. Start living in the moment and noticing that the beauty of that moonlit sky or the wonder of a rose petal or the fun that dancing barefoot in the rain offers you. Practice gratitude and be thankful for life's little wonders. Remember, it is the simple pleasures allow you to start caring for your spirit. Those simple pleasures allow you to start taking the time to nourish the brilliance that lies within you.
Simplifying your life is not hard to do. You just need to have the courage to carve out some time to do it. You can start to connect with your highest self through a daily period of silence or a daily period of peace as I call it in my work. This is nothing more than fifteen or twenty minutes a day where you stop rushing and simply start being, connecting to the natural wellspring of calmness which rests inside of you. Turn off the radio and the TV and don't answer the phone. And realize that silence nourishes the soul.
Another way to reconnect with your highest self is through time with nature. Something as simple as a walk along the ocean or a picnic in a park on a summer's day renews your spiritual side and connects you to the splendid pleasures which surround us. By spending time with nature, you start seeing the intelligence and gifts that exist within every living thing. And start to see yourself for who you really are: a traveller, an explorer on the path of life, confidently advancing along the path of enlightenment towards your destiny.
As a litigation lawyer, I used to work 70, 80, sometimes 90 hours a week, preparing briefs and getting ready to step into the court room. Although my efforts brought professional success, I realized that there was more to life. Eventually, I grew tired of the endless rushing, the endless faxes and the endless phone calls. I wanted to spend more time doing the things that I loved to do. I wanted to spend more time with my family, being a great father, husband and friend. I wanted to live a simpler, slower, more meaningful life. So I started to make changes. And one of my first priorities became the regular period of renewal that I am now suggesting you integrate into your own life. This simple discipline has worked wonders for me and it will do the same for you.
Remember, no matter what your background is and what your current circumstances are, you have the capacity to take action. This is one of the golden threads of humanity - we all have the power to act in a way that will improve our lives. Henry David Thoreau, a man who deeply understood that simplicity and an uncluttered life is the essence of lifelong success said the following words in a similar way:
"Simplify your life. Don't waste the years struggling for things that are unimportant. Don't burden yourself with possessions. Keep your needs and wants simple and enjoy what you have. Don't destroy your peace of mind by looking back, worrying about the past. Live in the present. Simplify!"
© Robin Sharma
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"Be the change you want to see in the world." Gandhi 
"A person's true wealth is the good he or she does in the world." Mohammed (PBUH)
"All things are possible to those who believe." Jesus
"Life is a bridge; enjoy while crossing, but don't build a castle upon it." Upanishads
