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Mange undrer sig over, hvordan de pårørende klarer det pres det er at have en søn, en datter, en ægtefælle, en far eller mor på dødsgangen, på denne og kommende sider vil en far fortælle om den tortur det er at have sin søn på dødsgangen, at besøge ham uden så meget som at kunne røre ved ham eller at kunne give ham et knus.

Læs selv og kend virkeligheden og ud fra det beder vi dig om at skrive og udtrykke protest imod umenneskeligheden!

People are wondering how inmates familys can live with this...a son, daughter, mom, man, wife on death row...this and other sites wil tell you the truth, the tortur it is to have a loved one on death row, newer to could touch him/her ore give a hug.
This is so inhuman...and we ask you not only to read it but also to act and write and protest to stop this tortur.

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Friends----

I have visited and am in contact with Ronald King, the father of
John King, who is currently on death row in Texas. Ronald King will
be 70 years old in December, and must use a wheelchair for his
mobility issues.

He is clearly suffering with his son on death row.

He has consented to allow me to share his thoughts, as he ponders
the ramifications of the institution and reality of the death penalty
on his son, himself and his family......

I will be posting his thoughts as he sends them; they serve as a
harsh and stark reminder that the death penalty is not an act, it is
a process........a process of dehumaninzation, cruel, inhuman and
degrading treatment, and physical and psychological torture inflicted
on both the condemned inmate and the family members of the inmate.

Rick

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1.
Rick I just wanted you to see how my feeble mind wanders at times. Yeah
I know it is peicemeal and at times a little wild but that is how I
write late at night just trying in some way to make sense out of the
life I have chosen for myself. I was writing and came back to the top
of the letter to leave you with this introduction [smile]

Maybe sooner or later I will write something that is a little better
organized. Since I am not a writer all I can do is try to follow this
wavering mind of mine [big grin]

Hold everything! That man has been sentenced to death so we must now
figure a way to punish his family more than just the fact that he will
have his life taken away by the State of Texas. It looks as though the
only thing we can add to the family's sentence is to have it so they can
visit but never be able to get beyond the inch or so of glass that
serves as a barrier. For them to see him, be close to him, and talk to
him must be made into a much sadder thing by never again being able to
hold or touch him in any way.

Lets back up and say that he has been accused of murdering a fellow
human being, which, if true, is surely one of the worse things a person
can do, and the state of Texas in its wisdom has said his life also must
be taken. That is the law, but how is another death going to bring back
the murder victim. Oh yes I didn't think, his death will stop all
future murders. After they see him die no one will ever again think of
taking anothers life., and besides the victim's family wants and needs
to see him die. It will make them feel better to know his life has been
forfeited.

This is all well and good so now we can do as I have seen and have the
Sheriff's deputies laugh and yell out "HE IS NOW ONE OF THE WALKING
DEAD'. Why do we now have to compound this with a lot of cruel and
unusual punishment to him while he still lives.

Yes the one person in this situation has been beat up pretty badly by
guards while he was handcuffed. He has been placed in a cell in the
summer when the temperature against the West wall of the small cell was
117 degrees. His mail has been delayed, ,when he was trying to beat
filing deadlines for appeals. He has suffered with an abscessed tooth
that was so bad his eyes were swollen shut, and could not get
treatment.. After he was attacked by the guards it was blamed on him
that in spite of having his hands handcuffed behind his back and having
his legs shackled he ws said to have attacked 2 able bodied guards so
his personal property like a radio was taken away and visits were
limited to 1 per month.

These things and more are things that have his father acting like a baby
and many nights crying himself to sleep.

His father wants to be able to hug him and say that in spite of
everything there is a God that loves us all, when he can only yell this
over a poor phone system. It just doesn't go over the same.
2.
Rick I wonder if the public as a whole would be interested in the
ramblings of a confused man, but I am at it again

I did something real foolish last night. I caught myself trying to
communicate with my son through telepathy. A man who has always thought
of himself as being pretty sensible sitting around repeating phrases and
picturing the person he is trying to send them to is not really pretty
sight. My idea was if I could find some way to talk to my son on death
row without having to go through the hardship of making the trip. I am
the only person to blame for smoking all those years and getting myself
in this kind of shape but now I find it tiring to go for a visit with a
son I will never again be able to touch regardless of how many years we
have left. There are people who feel they are right in saying my son de
serves any punishment that can be administered. Lets forget that part
and consider what the family goes through when they are no longer able
to reach out to a family member and touch him in any way. His
punishment has been metered out in that death by lethal injection awaits
him in the future. What do we gain by punishing the family also. How
many more times must the father leave crying because he was not able to
hug his son and pray with him.

Regardless of what he has been accused of there is still soul there
that God in his wisdom is willing to touch. What better way is there to
reach the son with the word of God than for the Father to be able to
hold him and tell him Gods Story. Sure The story can be told without
all this but in a case like this we must be able to approach things a
bit better than through a glass on a poor set of phones.

Yes I will keep trying to get as close as possible so if you see me
seemingly meditating with tears in my eyes, please don't laugh. because
I am trying to reach my son again.
3.
Some years ago I was reading an article in the Readers Digest.
There was an elderly lady, who had lost her husband some years before.
She was asked what the worse thing was about losing her mate of so many
years. Her answer was 'Nobody touches me any more" Just think how much
sadness there is in that statement. Since that time I have made it a
habit when talking to an elderly person to at some time physically touch
them in some way, on the shoulder, the arm, or the hand. I have noticed
many reactions to this and all positive. I came from a hugging family
and if the occasion arises I also give them a big hug. Sometime try
this simple act and the reaction you get will insure that you will
continue. It somehow makes your discussion more personal.

That article is what I think about when I visit my son on Death Row. It
is the memory of all the favorable reactions I have received from being
able to touch a person that brings tears to my eyes as I leave from that
visit. It would mean everything to be able to just touch my son who is
so close. I am now one of those elderly people who doesn't have a lot
of years left. I do pray that the State of Texas will at least once
allow me to touch my son. Who would this simple act hurt?
4.
Life is not all bad. Through my insurance I was able to get one of
those Electric chairs that enable me to get around pretty well. What
makes it even better is the fact that it comes apart so I can haul it in
the trunk of my car. I would never have been able to get a van or
Pickup to haul the others in.

Why would I be telling you this? I just want you to realize that in
spite of the bad things I have told you about I am proof that there is a
God that looks out for us. My big trouble is that the Honorable state
of Texas hs caused me no small amount of misery with the laws they have
decided to set up when it comes to my son on Death Row. The guards know
me when I come rolling in with my chair and they treat me as nice as
anyone could expect The ones I meet seem to be a nice group of people.
I then start hearing from my son and others about absolute horrors that
work deep inside that foreboding building. There are stories that
emerge about doors being opened accidentally putting decent guards face
to face with inmates that could cause them harm. Doors opening on cells
accidentally giving access to vicious inmates to inmates who are not in
favor. I hear of guards jumping on inmates who are handcuffed and have
their ankles shackled. I hear
of prisoners being sick and not able to get treatment. I hear of
psychiatrists telling inmates who had been diagnosed as manic depressive
that there was nothing wrong with them. That they were normal
considering the position they were in. I hear of important legal mail
being delayed until the time has run out on filing. I hear of grevances
being filed but stopped at the wardens office. saying there was no
grounds for them even though there was no investigation.. I hear of
them eating peanut butter and jelly meal after meal.

There is so much more, but all this makes me wonder if I deserve my good
fortune when we are exacting so much misery on other humans

I am going back next week and as always hope things have improved. The
State of Texas plans on Killing these people, so why do they have to
make their life so miserable until they can kill them.
5.
One day while visiting my son on death row I noticed a group just down
from us that were seemingly having a great time. I was thinking that
maybe the man was getting off death row. I then received the answer to
my question. Ever once in a while one of them would leave the window
and break down. Through their tears one of them explained that they
were indeed getting off death row. This was the last time they would
see the inmate alive. They said the only contact they were allowed was
to lay their hands on the glass and imagine they could feel the live
flesh just 1/2 inch away on the other side. It almost broke me down
seeing the desire in their faces to want just one more time to touch
this person who meant so much to them, but the State of Texas considered
already dead. Yea he was one of their objects of pride they called the
walking dead. Someone who was no one. This was an object they would be
strapping down for his last sleep brought
on by that deadly needle. They could then grin and say another has bit
the dust. How am I going to feel when that time comes for me. Will I
be able to lie to myself enough to put on a brave face for the people
who want this man to die. I really think this old man will do as he has
done so much in the past couple of years and break down unable even to
express my vile thoughts about the people who think this is the right
thing to do. I hope to go through that time supported by the prayers of
people that feel true revulsion for this act.

I hope that instead of making me a person full of hate that it will
strengthen my trust that someday this system will change.. I know there
are a large group of people in this world that are loving and really
care about people. Maybe someday we will be able to unite enough to
change this vile system. Go with God

>-->==>Ronald<==><-->< 6.9-28-00 TEXAS: Again This old man had a rough night. Yesterday while visiting my son on Death Row [what the legal department calls the home of the walking dead] I again witnessed the ultimate in pain and frustration. A family was present to say their last farewells to a family member. When I entered most of them were siting at the entrance while they took turns with 2 at a time going to the window and talking to the inmate. At first things appeared quite normal with them sitting and talking, with smiles and from time to time a little laughter. The only thing that seemed a little out of place was the extra number of people that kept coming from time to time to trade places with family members at the window. After I found out what was going on I could not help but glance back from time to time looking at the inmate sitting behind that infernal glass not ale to touch his Mother and other members of his family. My mind was distracted by the conversation I was having with my son and I could almost forget what was going on behind me. As my time was drawing near its end I looked back and really wished I hadn't. All I could see was the backs of about 8 members of the family standing in front of the window seemingly in prayer. If you looked closely you could see backs and shoulders shaking from what you would expect from a person crying. I am glad I could not see the Inmate because I can imagine I would see a solemn person glancing out at his mother, and family wishing he could hold his mother and give her a hug to last her for a long time. I just cannot see the wisdom of the State of Texas not allowing that last contact. To kill a human being is bad enough but not allowing that last contact just compounds the crime, which is what I believe it to be. Take Care Ronald the father of an inmate on death row. Oct. 3 Why is it that we let people who believe in the death penalty have their way. Is it because they say with such conviction "Thou people must die" Our statements seem to be "I don't think they should die." The death people as you see are so positive, but our statements, if you examine them. are weaker. We need to say with conviction. "No one should be allowed to commit murder even the government. Judges tell the jury they are not the ones who say a person must die, but only vote in a way to give the judge that option. Then after the verdict is read the judge says he had no other option because the jury said the person must die. All of a sudden it goes from giving an option as was first stated to voting for a mandate. No one then is blamed for the verdict, I can see them going through life continually washing their hands, trying to get the blood off their hands. When are we going to have people with enough conviction to stand up and say, I am giving No one authority to use my vote as an excuse for murder. These goodie goodies try to blame the Bible for their conviction but this just doesn't wash. When Cain killed abel. even God did not kill cain. There were killings throughout the bible but you don't find God coming behind with this brand of murder. People take things out of context in order to justify their guilty acts. when they should be on their knees asking God why they feel they must rewrite his word so they can make themselves a supreme being with a choice of whether a person should live or die. There is just no redemption in the act of murder. That is a final act. After it is decided that a person must die there is not much more punishment that can be dealt out so they then set about to destroy the family of the accused. Through acts like never letting them have contact with this "Walking Dead Man". They must be reminded in every way this person is already dead and beyond being able to receive any act of love. This man must be treated with cruelty and the family must be made aware of this. They must sit back and not be able to offer any kind of love and support, because a "dead Man" is not capable of receiving love. Let them be dammed and done with. Even though I am on the outside physically I am as much a prisoner as any man in prison. I am left to feel the hurt of the dammed by not being able to offer solace to this person I love. It is probably too late to help me but please come forth and see that no one in the future has to go through this. Make the world a little better because you were here. ">-->==>Ronald<==><-->< **********************************************************************************>

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